Posted by: Anonymous Coward
on July 02, 2004 04:57 AM
You are a closed minded, inexperienced dork. I would not want to be your child. By your rules you would let your child go anywhere they want, discover anything they want, try anything they want.
NEWS FLASH: What children want is usually not the best or even good for them.
You or they don't have the time to recover from every bad decision they will make as they grow up if you always let them stumble onto things before you buffer them. Life is too short to have to overcome all the "accidental" scars.
Even you point out that many adults don't know what is best for them! But you think children should have free reign to experience everything, at least once, and then you will run in and pick up the pieces with a bit of education?
"If you restrict a childs access to something, then they become more curious about it."
No! This statement is incorrect and a common falicy. If you have done your parenting job correctly, if you have talked, discussed, played and worked together enough, if you have the sort of relationship with your child that you should, the child will not even want the restricted something because they will know from experience and trust that you know what is best for them. They will willingly follow your lead. If your child behaves as you state, this is an indicator that the relationship is weak and you, the parent, have more work to do. It is often the first indicator that I am slipping when my children begin to behave that way.
Your philosopy would have your child leading you from crisis to crisis. Why not be proactive and seek out the trouble? Take you child to drug parties or keggers or cock fights or spring break in Cancun. Bribe a stip club to let them get a lap dance. Go by them drugs to try out because they are curious. Let them see and experience all the base, lower garbage of the world. Raw greed, lust, abuse of power and emotional upheaval is just what you want them have. A long wade in the gutter is what they need. The sooner the better so they can learn about it. Let your child lose their innocence at an early age because, hey, their gonna see it all some day so might as well throw them in the deep end.
Don't keep them from the hot kitchen stove. They'll learn after they touch it and get burned. Then show them the camp stove cause the can get burned on that too!
What is so wrong about helping a child to stay young as long as they can? What is wrong with letting them arrive at age 16 or so before they experience that the world is a scary place? What is so wrong about them coming home from school able to completely relax because they know that emotionally charged, scary stuff is safely locked out by loving parents? I want my 10 year-old's biggest worry to be trading his tuna sandwich for something better or trying to pass his spelling test. Children will learn the coarse things of the world soon enough, without me leading the way or leaving the gates wide open.
And, I must say, your mother was foolish to offer to get drugs for you. She was willing to risk your parent being sent to prison just so you could try something! Yes, she was willing to have you loose your mother for a prolonged period of time just to satisfy your curiousity about an illegal substance. And this is good?!? This is wise and enlightened? It was foolish and stupid! "Your honor, I was just trying to teach my child a lesson. Don't send me away for 2 years! Please!" The possible benefit of providing you drugs for your experience was NOT worth the risk of the child losing a parent for years at a time!
I am done beating on the brick wall of your brain. May someone save your children from you!
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Posted by: Anonymous Coward on July 02, 2004 04:57 AMNEWS FLASH: What children want is usually not the best or even good for them.
You or they don't have the time to recover from every bad decision they will make as they grow up if you always let them stumble onto things before you buffer them. Life is too short to have to overcome all the "accidental" scars.
Even you point out that many adults don't know what is best for them! But you think children should have free reign to experience everything, at least once, and then you will run in and pick up the pieces with a bit of education?
"If you restrict a childs access to something, then they become more curious about it."
No! This statement is incorrect and a common falicy. If you have done your parenting job correctly, if you have talked, discussed, played and worked together enough, if you have the sort of relationship with your child that you should, the child will not even want the restricted something because they will know from experience and trust that you know what is best for them. They will willingly follow your lead. If your child behaves as you state, this is an indicator that the relationship is weak and you, the parent, have more work to do. It is often the first indicator that I am slipping when my children begin to behave that way.
Your philosopy would have your child leading you from crisis to crisis. Why not be proactive and seek out the trouble? Take you child to drug parties or keggers or cock fights or spring break in Cancun. Bribe a stip club to let them get a lap dance. Go by them drugs to try out because they are curious. Let them see and experience all the base, lower garbage of the world. Raw greed, lust, abuse of power and emotional upheaval is just what you want them have. A long wade in the gutter is what they need. The sooner the better so they can learn about it. Let your child lose their innocence at an early age because, hey, their gonna see it all some day so might as well throw them in the deep end.
Don't keep them from the hot kitchen stove. They'll learn after they touch it and get burned. Then show them the camp stove cause the can get burned on that too!
What is so wrong about helping a child to stay young as long as they can? What is wrong with letting them arrive at age 16 or so before they experience that the world is a scary place? What is so wrong about them coming home from school able to completely relax because they know that emotionally charged, scary stuff is safely locked out by loving parents? I want my 10 year-old's biggest worry to be trading his tuna sandwich for something better or trying to pass his spelling test. Children will learn the coarse things of the world soon enough, without me leading the way or leaving the gates wide open.
And, I must say, your mother was foolish to offer to get drugs for you. She was willing to risk your parent being sent to prison just so you could try something! Yes, she was willing to have you loose your mother for a prolonged period of time just to satisfy your curiousity about an illegal substance. And this is good?!? This is wise and enlightened? It was foolish and stupid! "Your honor, I was just trying to teach my child a lesson. Don't send me away for 2 years! Please!" The possible benefit of providing you drugs for your experience was NOT worth the risk of the child losing a parent for years at a time!
I am done beating on the brick wall of your brain. May someone save your children from you!
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